I have been watching Inside Out with my toddler girl–or, as she has renamed it: Calm Down–for the past few days and I am finding that, while I am trying to teach my daughter lessons about emotions and feelings, I am learning and relearning some important ones myself. While one can learn to be emotionally awake and mature, I believe that there are always lessons worth revisiting as we grow through life.
*It’s okay to not be okay, even when people ask or want you to be okay.
*Just because you’re sad about something, it doesn’t mean your feelings are wrong.
*Just because you forget something or don’t think about it anymore, it doesn’t mean that it wasn’t beneficial or important or that it didn’t do you any good at the time.
*It is entirely possible to feel two things at once and have both of them be “right”.
*Crying is OKAY! Sometimes we just need to cry, and it really does help.
*It’s all right to not have all the answers.
*It’s all right to be scared and sad when what we have loved ends for whatever reason.
*It’s perfectly okay to look for the fun and to try to find the joy in situations if that is what you need to do in order to cope.
*There is no shame in your personality, interests, hobbies, etc., changing as your life goes on. It’s part of growing.
*It’s also okay to not be willing to look for the fun and the joy in a situation for a time. We need to feel sadness, too.
*It is all right to need someone just to be there.
*We can sit on the bench with someone and not try to fix things or make things better. Sometimes someone just needs their sadness to be heard and felt and their tears shared.
There is so much that we as human beings are still learning about ourselves, our feelings, reactions, relationships, and growth, even as adults. Our personalities shift and expand and deepen. Our interests vary. Who we are and who we choose to be may change and that is all right. The truth is that we never stop growing, learning, feeling, or changing. And that is okay. We are okay. YOU are okay.
(Disclaimer: Inside Out and its images are the creation and property of Disney/Pixar. None of it belongs to me.)