Inklings of Coziness


As we linger in this bone-deep cold of early 2026, the calendar about to turn its page into February, I find I am treasuring the concept of softness and cozy more and more. I personally refuse to complain about winter being cold (it would simply be hypocritical of me), but that does not mean that I cannot appreciate my spaces of warmth and safety.

I do believe, however, that I have always desired hygge and coziness. As a child, I can recall trying to capture those idyllic, cozy atmospheres that I found in books like Eight Cousins or Anne of Green Gables.

I loved swirly skirts and my lace-up ankle boots, circa 1996. I felt very Victorian when I wore them together.

When the electricity went out, I would “play Jo” and journal by candle and moonlight at my desk.

I recall “having teatime” all by myself with a lovely cup of hot chocolate and some bread and butter (originally inspired by the tea-party-on-the-ceiling scene in Mary Poppins).

I’ve also always loved to make my spaces comfortable. In graduate school, when my roommate moved out, I rearranged the room to create more of a lounge area. I took the extra bed and turned it into a lounge/couch of sorts where I could sit and read or watch TV. This way I did not feel like I had to be either at my desk working all the time or sleeping.

I suppose I have always been chasing cozy, to be able to feel utterly at home: in my own space, in my own clothing, in my own skin. It has been the work of almost 43 years but now I can truly say that I am utterly enjoying the journey.

Currently bows are my entire personality. Book, cup, headband, hair clips, sweater, dress…if it has a bow on it, I want it. To me, it feels like the ultimate expression of the femininity and girlishness that has always been a core part of me, even when I tried to bury it oh so deep down. Now in my feral forties, I am ecstatically embracing my “soft girl era” (which has, honestly, always been there) and giving that side of myself all the love that it so richly deserves.

And everyone around me (including my poor students) will just have to live with it. 🎀

Waxing Idyllic


I am convinced that I am a woman of fractured soul – modern and idyllic, city mouse and country mouse in one.  But, for this endeavor, I shall choose the latter. I have always dreamt of the idyllic, of rolling hills, villages, woods, streams, meadows, etc. Seriously, I would be a hobbit if I had the choice and be most happy with it, I think!

Now, I have never been to the United Kingdom or Europe, though I have wanted to for as long as I can remember. Despite that lack of visitation, I still think that I could find myself happy in a quintessentially lovely European village. Row houses and cottages with flowers blossoming in window boxes, hedgerows, and gardens. A lovely home for me and mine — me to make cozy and mine to fill with our own brand of eccentricity. Walled gardens to play, relax, and read in. Shops and the like within walking/biking distance and the city maybe a train trip away.

Yes, I definitely still dream of the idyllic life, though some would say that I already have it.

HoosierLand in the Fall


I ask myself this all the time: WHY would I want to live anywhere other than Indiana? And it’s usually when I am driving out in the country somewhere. Right now, Indiana is ablaze with autumn. It is my husband’s favorite time of year and is fast beocming one of mine. Today was a sunny, cloudless, cool day and, as I drove to and from church, I just marveled once again at the beauty of the land around me. Sure, east central Indiana is as flat as a failed souffle but there’s no denying the sight of a forest on fire with autumn colors cresting the horizon of a harvested corn field. It’s a beauty like no other. There’s a scent coursing along the crispness in the air, like a sharp, sweet, cold apple. Cliche maybe but appropriate nonetheless.

It’s not just a smell but also a feeling. A stirring inside. Life is changing in the fall and I am beginning to find it more beautiful than ever before.

Quasi-Daily Writing – June 20, 2012 – “Idyllic Dreams”


I’m sitting here in the den with the window open, listening to the early Morris Street morning. It’s quiet, calm, peaceful. How could I want to live anywhere else? Some of my friends love the crush and bustle of city life, but there is no way I could do that. Cities make me feel small and closed in, insignificant. Yes, I am a person who likes to be able to fade into the background and observe, but I want that to be my choice, not a reality by bent of where I live. The sounds of the city crowd in on my ears, distract me, turn me about. The wind tunnels they become in the winter bowl me over. The anonymity by necessity makes me feel isolated. Now, please don’t misunderstand me. Cities have their very, very good points, too. Museums and shopping malls and wonderful places to discover to eat. And friends, don’t forget friends. But it’s not for me. I learned this rather quickly. I need a touch of country somewhere.

Ben and I were driving through Randolph County one lovely afternoon and, as I looked out over the burgeoning cornfields, the rippling wheat, and the treeline beyond – so much green! – I thought to myself, “This is what I always wanted.” And I did. The beauty and idyllic peace of ‘country life’ is something I dreamt of constantly as a child growing up in the Caribbean. I wanted gardens full of flowers, birds singing in the trees, butterflies in the daytime, and fireflies at night. And I have that now.

Treaty House at Story Inn (Story, Indiana)

We spent our honeymoon and fifth wedding anniversary at the Treaty House in Story, Indiana. Now, seriously, you can hardly ask for my idyllic than Story. No TV, no radio, no cell phone reception, up in the hills of southern Indiana. In the spring and early summer, it is just wonderful! Quiet, beautiful, the air still enough to hear the horses nickering in the nearby fields while the fireflies flit by your head. One of my favorite things was just to walk along the road there with Ben in the late evening, holding hands and reveling in the whispering roar of the leaves rustling overhead like ocean waves, the clean breeze, and the oncoming night as the fireflies began to wink into being. Needless to say, I love it there and plan for us to go back for our tenth anniversary and as many as we can handle after that.

Here, at home, I still have the idyllic. There is a huge oak tree in our backyard that overshadows a swingset left behind by the previous owners, where we have hung a bench swing. It’s perfect on cool evenings, to sit out and listen to the noise of the tree die down as children are bustled inside for dinner and evening tv, though during the summer, “come inside time” does get later and later. We also have a firepit out back that can make for some very romantic and reflective evenings.

Every little girl wants a cottage of her own some day.

Even though I live ‘in town’, I still have that country loveliness I always dreamed of. All that’s missing most of the time is a proper, hobbitish sort of dress for me to wear. Because, of course, my dear friend Courtney and I fully intend on someday retiring to a lovely little English country cottage some day. With a darling garden for us to sit and Courtney will teach me to make the perfect loaf of bread. You know, like you do. 🙂